What is BDSM sex?
BDSM is a term to describe dominance, submission, and control aspects involved. This approach usually involves one party being more dominant when having sex, while the other being more compliant. The BDSM can be divided into the following categories:
- Bondage: Restrictions on the freedom of the partners of the movement, for example, ropes, handcuffs or other restrictions.
- Discipline: Agree to the rules and penalize the main partner to impose control on a submissive partner.
- Dominance: Behavior that shows dominance over the physical partner during sex or outside the bedroom.
- Submission: Denotes obedience to the behavior and desires of the dominant partner.
- Sadism and Masochism: The partner may be pleased by physical or emotional pain or receiving pain.
There are a lot different types of BDSM games – power play, role-play, pain play, bondage, wax play, sensory deprivation, humiliation, or wax play.
“Although some people think that BDSM is ‘kinky’, in some cases it doesn’t have to involve sex at all – the mental connotations of some acts are more of a turn-on than the prelude of a particular act leading to sex,”
by Annabelle
BDSM informed consent between individuals is called SSC (Safety, Reason and Consensus) or RACK (Risk Awareness Consensus Kink).
It can be a word that has nothing to do with sex, such as “apple”, just like as long as you all agree that the safe word you choose means that everything must stop until the situation is resolved.
“Many specific practices by lovers who indulge in BDSM are performed in neutral, mutually consenting relationships. This emphasis on informed consent is of paramount importance when carrying out a BDSM act because BDSM often involves varying degrees of pain, physical restraint and servitude.”
by Annabelle
There’s also a safe word system called “Traffic light”
- Red: Means stop.
- Yellow: Mean slow down.
- Green: Means go for it.
Here are types of BDSM play:
- Age Play
- Bondage
- Biting
- Breast Torture
- Breath Play
- Caning
- Chastity
- Collaring
- Cock & Ball Torture
- Cuckoldry
- Cupping
- Domination and Submission
- Edge Play
- Electrostimulation and Electro-Play
- Face sitting
- Feederism
- Fire Play
- Fisting
- Flogging
- Foot Worship
- Genitorture
- Gun Play
- Hair pulling
- Ice play
- Impact Play
- Knife Play
- Mummification
- Needle Play
- Nose Torture
- Orgasm Denial
- Orgasm Torture
- Pegging
- Pet Play
- Piss Play
- Pony Play
- Pussy Worship
- Rape Fantasy
- Role-Play
- Humiliation Play
- Scat Play
- Sado-Masochism
- Sensory Play
- Sensory Deprivation
- Self BDSM
- Sounding
- Spanking
- Suspension Bondage
- Tickle Torture
- Wax Play
- Whipping Play
I can’t say I am addicted on BDSM, because there’s a lot I haven’t try it yet, and I am afraid to try. (fisting!?) Some of them I quite enjoy it with my lover. Both of us have agreement of safe word and traffic system.
The most part that I’ve been enjoy so far of course if dress up. I love to wear sexy one to show how nasty I can be. I enjoy sex and I willing to try new stuff with my lover. Everything have to be safe and clean, so we only have each other as sex mate.
Later on, I will post some BDSM lingerie, accessories, and toys…etc. Please stay tuned!! xoxo